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A gatekeeper parent is a term sometimes utilized in the legal arena to refer to a parent who appoints themself the power to decide what relationship is acceptable between the other parent and the child(ren). The term is broad and may refer to power dynamics within a marriage or may describe the behaviors of divorced or never married parents. ==Characteristics== Most "gatekeeping" situations are studied with consenting married couples who are first-time parents. Parenting situation studies using divorced couples and out-of-wedlock parenting relationships that show very similar or identical behavioral characteristics as married couples with children are usually studied as Parental Interference, Parental Alienation, Maternal Alienation, and Abuse by Proxy. A gatekeeper parent exhibits the following behaviors: *Criticizes the way other parent, spouse, or ex-spouse parents *Creates unbending or unrealistic standards in order for the other parent to spend time with the children *Demeans or undermines the other parent's efforts at being an authority figure in the child(ren's) lives *Controls all the organizing, delegating, planning, and scheduling in the home *Becomes reluctant to let go of some of the responsibility for caring for the family *Needs a great deal of validation of their identity as a parent, both from the other parent, spouse, or ex-spouse and from outside the marriage or parenting relationship *Believes in the traditional roles assigned to husbands and wives *Views the other parent, spouse, or ex-spouse as a helper and not an equal when it comes to household chores and child-care responsibilities *Asks the other parent, spouse, or ex-spouse for help and then gives explicit directions on how to accomplish a task Inside a marriage, the characteristics and symptoms of a gatekeeper may already be apparent, with one parent being relegated to second tier status and disenfranchised with regard to their parenting skills or their ability to practice and nurture their own set of skills. This lends itself to the dominant parent taking complete control of the household, and it causes severe resentment and sense of helplessness in the other parent's relationship with the children. In a post-divorce situation, the gatekeeping parent may limit contact between the other parent and the child(ren), abuse the child verbally and psychologically, or utilize derogatory remarks regarding the other parent, including threats in order to maintain control. 抄文引用元・出典: フリー百科事典『 ウィキペディア（Wikipedia）』 ■ウィキペディアで「Gatekeeper parent」の詳細全文を読む スポンサード リンク
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